Tapping Script for Healing from the Loss of a Child

As is the case with all of my tapping scripts, the statements below can be used as is, or modified in any way that makes them resonate more fully with your experience. Also, you may notice that when you start tapping on one of these statements, thoughts and feelings will arise that you can then use as new tapping statements, which will then give rise to still more thoughts and feelings, which you can use to create additional tapping statements, and so on. I call this following the thread, and it’s a very efficient way to heal and release a lot of painful feelings in a short amount of time.

Here are the tapping statements:

I refuse to accept that my baby passed away.

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My child died and I will never get over it--I'll be grieving for the rest of my life.

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My baby died and I'll never get to see him/her again.

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My baby died and I didn't get to say goodbye to him/her.

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I don't know how to go on without my child.

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I don't want to go on without my child.

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I wish there was something I could have done to save my baby.

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I should have done more to keep my child safe.

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I should have done more to save my child's life.

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If I had only done __________________, my child would not have died.

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If I had only not ________________________, my baby would still be here.

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I would give anything to have my baby back.

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I don't understand why God took my baby from me.

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It's not fair that my child died.

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I had unfinished business with my son/daughter, and now I'll never get to resolve things with him/her.

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I'm consumed with grief and no one knows how to relate to me.

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I wish I had been able to protect my baby and keep him/her alive, but in the end, there was nothing I could do, and it made me feel so powerless.

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People want me to heal and move on, but I can't, and I wish people would just understand that and let me be.

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I should have been a better mother, and now it's too late.

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I'm angry at God/Life/The Universe for taking our child from us.

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I will be heartbroken over the death of my child for the rest of my life.

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No one understands what I'm going through and it's really lonely for me.

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There is no way to escape the pain I'm in.

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I feel like this is just a terrible nightmare and I just want to wake up.

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Since my baby died I’m living my worst nightmare every single day, and there is no end in sight.

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I don’t want to go on without my son/daughter.

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It’s not fair that my child’s life was taken when he/she was so young.

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I don’t understand how a loving God could let someone’s child die.

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The pain I’m in is so overwhelming that I can’t function.

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I miss my baby so much—it’s all I can think about.

Five Things You Need to Give Yourself a Great EFT Session

Once you've learned the basics of EFT, you can give yourself a great (even life-changing) tapping session. However, oftentimes, when people set out to use EFT on their own, they just tap for a few minutes here and there when they're stressed-out, without giving themselves what they need to really go in-depth and get to the root of the issues that are causing them to suffer. Here are five things to ensure that the time you spend tapping is as healing as possible.

1. A Room of One's Own

Virginia Woolf really was onto something with this (and if she'd had EFT, perhaps her life would have turned out differently). When it's time to tap, make sure you have a comfortable place to sit or lie down where you won't be interrupted. Treat this time as you would any other appointment. In other words, this time is set aside for a certain purpose, and you are not available for anything else. Since this is an appointment with yourself, you don't have to schedule it ahead of time (though that wouldn't be a bad idea), but in every other regard, treat it as you would your calendared commitments.

2. The Sound of Silence

Turn off your phones (cell, landline, office phone, whatever). This is your time to heal. Would you want phones ringing (or any interruptions) while you were in a session with an EFT practitioner? The last thing you need when you're halfway through tapping out an EFT breakthrough is for your phone to ring.

3. Kleenex 

Get a box of tissues and put it next to where you'll be sitting. If you're really not a crier, meaning there is absolutely no chance you'll cry during your session, then skip this part, but if there's any possibility that tears will flow as you're tapping, best to be prepared so that you don't have to stop the flow of your session to get up for tissues.

4. Water 

Get a glass of water and put it next to where you'll be sitting. The body uses a lot of water during and after an EFT session, and the tapping isn't as effective if you're dehydrated, so be sure to drink a bit before you start and have some on hand if you get thirsty during the session. Almost all of my clients get thirsty during their sessions, and having water at the ready ensures that the tapping will be effective and the session will be as uninterrupted as possible.

5. Timer

Set a timer for 30 minutes. You can do more than 30 if you want, but it's not necessary. You'll be amazed by how much you can clear in a half-hour. If you don't want to do 30 minutes, do 20. Less than that could put you in the suboptimal position of your timer going off just when you feel like you've really gotten to a deep place with your tapping.

EFT is the most powerful healing modality I know of, but it only works if you do it, and it only works really well if you really do it, by giving yourself a real session. If you do this once a week, after one month, you will be amazed by how much you have healed and transformed in such a short time. And if you're really serious about this, give it a year, and watch the miracles unfold!

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