Tapping Script for Healing from the Loss of a Child

As is the case with all of my tapping scripts, the statements below can be used as is, or modified in any way that makes them resonate more fully with your experience. Also, you may notice that when you start tapping on one of these statements, thoughts and feelings will arise that you can then use as new tapping statements, which will then give rise to still more thoughts and feelings, which you can use to create additional tapping statements, and so on. I call this following the thread, and it’s a very efficient way to heal and release a lot of painful feelings in a short amount of time.

Here are the tapping statements:

I refuse to accept that my baby passed away.

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My child died and I will never get over it--I'll be grieving for the rest of my life.

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My baby died and I'll never get to see him/her again.

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My baby died and I didn't get to say goodbye to him/her.

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I don't know how to go on without my child.

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I don't want to go on without my child.

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I wish there was something I could have done to save my baby.

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I should have done more to keep my child safe.

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I should have done more to save my child's life.

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If I had only done __________________, my child would not have died.

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If I had only not ________________________, my baby would still be here.

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I would give anything to have my baby back.

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I don't understand why God took my baby from me.

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It's not fair that my child died.

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I had unfinished business with my son/daughter, and now I'll never get to resolve things with him/her.

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I'm consumed with grief and no one knows how to relate to me.

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I wish I had been able to protect my baby and keep him/her alive, but in the end, there was nothing I could do, and it made me feel so powerless.

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People want me to heal and move on, but I can't, and I wish people would just understand that and let me be.

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I should have been a better mother, and now it's too late.

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I'm angry at God/Life/The Universe for taking our child from us.

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I will be heartbroken over the death of my child for the rest of my life.

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No one understands what I'm going through and it's really lonely for me.

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There is no way to escape the pain I'm in.

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I feel like this is just a terrible nightmare and I just want to wake up.

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Since my baby died I’m living my worst nightmare every single day, and there is no end in sight.

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I don’t want to go on without my son/daughter.

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It’s not fair that my child’s life was taken when he/she was so young.

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I don’t understand how a loving God could let someone’s child die.

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The pain I’m in is so overwhelming that I can’t function.

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I miss my baby so much—it’s all I can think about.

How to Use EFT to Remove the Pain from Painful Memories

Are you hurting about an event from your past and are not quite sure how to release it with EFT? Here's an easy to follow list of steps to guide you through the process:

1) Name the memory. For example: My girlfriend cheated on me.

2) Give a number between 0 and 10 to the emotional intensity you experience when you feel into this memory.

3) Now put the memory title into an EFT set-up statement. In this example, it would be, "Even though my girlfriend cheated on me, I deeply and completely accept myself."

4) Repeat the set-up statement three times while tapping on the karate chop point.

5) Now tap through all the points, repeating at each point the statement without the set-up phrases around it. In this case it would be: "My girlfriend cheated on me."

6) Tap through all the points one more time, while repeating the statement at each point. 

7) Now that you've tapped through the points twice, ask yourself: What thoughts and feelings are coming to me now? Whatever comes as an answer to this question can be used as your next tapping statement. For example: "I can't believe she lied to me all those months."

8) At this point, you can either continue tapping on the first statement, or take the new statement through the steps you just did on the first statement. Let your intuition guide you about whether to stick with the previous statement or move onto the new one. Remember, you can always save the new statement for later. Likewise, you can always return to a statement that you've moved on from.

9) Just continue on this manner, until the whole subject of "My girlfriend cheated on me" feels neutral, meaning you feel at peace about it. You'll notice as you tap, if you hadn't already noticed it before, that the memory you chose to work on, in all likelihood, is really a whole collection of related memories, all of which fit under the umbrella of your title memory. The umbrella in the example here is "My girlfriend cheated on me." Other examples might be: "Car accident," "Miscarriage," "Getting divorced." 

Basically, with EFT, if you just follow the thread, it will lead you all the way through the issue (depending on the issue's complexity, sometimes this can be done in one tapping session, and other times it takes multiple sessions). So the beginning of the thread in this example is whatever the name of your memory is, and once you start tapping that out, it will lead you to the next aspect of the memory that's ready to be released. Related memories and feelings will pop up, like, in this example, the lies that were told. Or sometimes it's a sensory memory, like the smell of a certain food that was cooking when the infidelity was discovered, or a song that was playing.  As these appear, just tap them out until they're neutral.  Soon you will have found and released every aspect of the painful memory, and it will no longer be painful, it will just be a memory, and you will be at peace with it.